I was so upset by that remark that I shut down and couldn’t hear anything else.
I didn’t think that was funny. I would like you to stop.
So you don’t see color. Tell me more about your perspective. Can you elaborate your point ?
From a white woman to someone who is person of color “As a woman, I know what you go through as a racial minority. Response – So it sounds like you’re equating gender and racial oppression. I wonder what other people think about that.
I’m going to interject here.
Tell me more about that.
So, it sounds like you’re saying. . .
Help me understand what you meant by that.
I was socialized to believe. . .
I overheard your conversation and thought I heard you say. . .
How have you come to think that?
I know you didn’t realize this but when you ________(comment/behavior), it was hurtful/offensive because________
I think that’s a stereotype. I’ve learned that __________
Actually in my experience________
I noticed that you ________ comment/behavior. I used to do/say that too, but then I learned_________.